9 Real Reasons Why Cheating Happens In a Relationship

 

When you’re in a relationship, you trust your partner with your deepest thoughts and fears, and when they break your trust in the worst way possible, you can’t help but wonder why.

First, you’ll react in anger. Then, you start to live in denial. But the hardest part of all is when everything settled down and all you’re left with are questions.

Was it you? Did he find you lacking? Could you have done anything? Why did this happen? Your self-esteem takes a hit and you’ll find yourself afraid of being hurt again.

Before I go on further, first understand that guys cheat just as much as girls do – no one can say a certain gender is more prone to temptations.

Now that we’ve gotten that clear, here are 9 real reasons why cheating happens in a relationship.

1. The Feeling Just Fades Away

Yes, it happens. You may no longer love your partner but because you’ve been together for so long, you’re afraid to let go. But when you meet someone new, you’ll chat her up and well, one thing led to another.

2. Things Got Boring

You’ll get what I mean if you’re in a long-term relationship. You’re so comfortable with one another that there are no more sparks (you think) between you and him.

Then one day, this interesting and fascinating man appeared before you. He spices up your life in a way your boyfriend is unable to do anymore.

3. Comparison

Yes, sometimes it’s just as simple as comparing two people. This new guy goes out of his way to make you smile while your boyfriend can’t be bothered to do so anymore. You start wondering why you’re still with your boyfriend instead of this amazing guy.

4. Opportunity

Sometimes, it just happens. He could be drinking, or he could be presented with a temptation he couldn’t say no to.

5. Loneliness

They say you must have some space apart from your other half in your relationship, but if there’s too much space (such as him working too much or not having enough time for you), there’s a higher chance of cheating to occur.

You’ll start thinking, what’s the point and when the opportunity comes along, well, you just let things take its course.

6. Anger

Let’s face it, being in a relationship is never easy. There are days where you’ll storm out of the house in fits of anger and in that moment, you would do anything to take your mind off things even if it meant hurting your partner. So you hook-up with someone you met at the bar.

7. Lack of intimacy

For the longest of time, you both have not been spending quality time together. Especially when the passion within the relationship fizzles, it’s tempting to find other alternatives. In which most would succumb to their temptations and find someone else.

8. Curiosity

You’re curious. You’re curious to see what lies on the other side – the darker side. You’re tired of being the good person, and you’re bored with following the rules. And so you’re curious to see what’s the deal with people being in affairs.

9. The Thrill

Yes, it happens. Sometimes, it’s not because of their partner. The risk taker in them just needed to be let loose. They live for taking risks and nothing beats playing a game that gives them power over their trusting partner.

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