Here’re 5 valid reasons why we think it’s okay to have lesser friends, and you’ll agree too

Last Updated on 2016-06-23 , 12:27 pm

This is a guest post by Nadia Jamal, a writer from ABetterFlorist.com. 

There’s no denying that having no friends is better than having fake friends. Unfortunately, today’s society often neglects the importance and value of a true friendship and focuses more on popularity, networking and socialising.

It seems as if the society is telling you, the more friends you have, the more you’re worth. But actually, when it comes down to making the choice between having little, but real friendships or having hundreds of friends you can’t depend on, what would you choose and which, in essence, is a better choice for a life filled with quality and meaningful relationships.

We decide to go with the first choice. Here’s why having little friends is so awesome.

More Time for Yourself
Although it might sound too harsh or even shallow, having a lot of friends means having to spend a lot of your own time talking, texting or simply hanging out with each and every one of them, and not devoting time to yourself.

Maintaining dozens of relationships can be time-consuming and even tiring. If you’re the kind of person who gets frustrated or feels pressure when having to deal with so many friends, then you’re probably better off having a few close friends.

This ultimately means you will have more time for yourself, which isn’t a bad thing at all. Think about it, if you can’t devote the time to yourself, to relax, work on yourself to be happy, what kind of a friend are you going to be to dozens of others seeking your attention?

Just a reminder, nobody likes a grumpy companion, especially not a group of superficially connected friends.

Less Drama
The more friends you have, especially if you’re all in one big circle of friendship where everyone knows everyone, you’re going to be constantly facing drama. It doesn’t really matter whether you’re a drama queen or not, you’re bound to get caught in between someone’s unresolved issues and problems.

Opposed to the chaotic circle of relationships that may bring about gossip, drama or possessiveness, having a few close friends means you’re going to cut that drama at the root. It’s only 2 or 3 of you, so you can’t actually start a drama, even if you wanted to.

Heck, you won’t be expecting a flower delivery every other day, from the friend you’ve had lunch with last week thanking you for the get-together, but more than often, one right person can compensate for hundreds of other people.

You Get To Be You
Now, you must be thinking, ’Well this is rubbish, I’m always me. I don’t pretend’.

But, being friends with 20, 30 or even 50 people means you’re going to have to be quite flexible when talking to different personalities. Chances are not all of those friends are your soul mates, and you’re going to have to do a lot of bending and twisting to maintain a thoughtful relationship.

When you’re surrounded by a couple of close friends, you have the freedom to be completely you. In fact, you don’t have to fake anything, whether it’s a smile, tear or an opinion. You get to be 100% you.

Give Yourself Completely
Think about it. Can you devote your entire being to a large number of people? You’re lucky if you can do it to only a handful of them.

Having only a few close friends means being able to devote your time, thoughts and emotions to those relationships and always be there for your friends. It means you’re able to form a stronger and more stable bond that goes way deeper than 30 friendships combined.

Best friends will make your problems theirs just so you don’t have to go through them alone.

24/7 Support
Friends are sort of like a great customer support. Only better. They are on your speed dial for emergency cases, and you don’t have to be afraid that they won’t pick up. They know you’re counting on them, and they’ll take it seriously. If you, however, have a big group of friends, how can you know you can rely on? Although it’s a cliché, it’s true that you find out who your real friends are in a crisis situation.

If you, however, have a big group of friends, how can you know who you can rely on? Although it’s a cliché, it’s true that you find out who your real friends are in a crisis situation.

Going to bars, visiting night clubs and raving all night till the crack of dawn usually makes us believe that those people are going to be our friends forever. But when the party stops, who’s going to be there and who’s going to be there to help you get home and who’s going to be raving at the after party? Maybe, having a few close friends, but one’s you can rely on is all you need.

Maybe, having a few close friends, but one’s you can rely on is all you need.

This article was first published on goodyfeed.com