One is never really ready to get married.
Not really. How would you know if the person in your arms right now is the right person for you?
How would you know if he/she would remain the same even after marriage? The truth is, you might never really know. Such is the reality we live in.
In fact, the same goes for starting a family and having a kid. No one’s truly prepared to be a parent.
That being said, there’s gotta be some kind of sign indicating that you’re ready to take on the next stage in your life.
Here’s our attempt at figuring out one of the biggest (and most important) question in life.
1. Financial stability
Were you perhaps expecting something romantic? Time for a reality check, my friend.
While money might not be the most important thing in the world, you can’t deny that it’s still one of the more important things in life.
Now, I’m not sure about you, but I’m quite certain that most people we know spend a great deal of money when it comes to marriage.
Be it the wedding banquet, buying a house or renovation costs—all of which require a good amount of money.
Which brings us to our main question. How stable/reliable is your source of income? Will your significant other be willing and able to share the burden with you? How long will your savings last if something unfortunate were to happen?
Financial stability is perhaps one of the most important factors to consider before getting married.
We’re talking savings, investments and all. Remember, true love might make you happy, but it won’t stop you from going hungry.
2. Spending your life with another person
Can you imagine spending the next few decades of your life with this person you’re with right now? Marriage, I believe, is about finding the person you would like to spend your entire life with.
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Of course, the ceremony and the signing of papers technically tie the two of you together for life. But deep down, we all know it’s more than just a piece of paper or a ring.
It’s about the commitment and the promise to go through thick and thin with the person you’re with, “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
In other words, if you can’t stand going out with your partner for more than a couple of hours without getting irritated, then it’s time to move on.
3. Seeing beyond the exterior
Now, some of you may not agree with me on this, but I firmly believe that love runs deeper than physical appearances. Then again, bear in mind that all these points here are subjective.
Some people marry their husband or wife because of their looks.
Well, not that there’s anything wrong with that. After all, you’ll be looking at this face for many years to come. However, will things still remain the same 20 years later once his/her beauty fades?
Will you be able to love him/her for what and who he/she is inside?
Of course, some of you believe in living in the moment and that’s completely fine. I think I’m one of those people who value inner beauty more than outward appearances.
If your significant other has both physical attractiveness and inner beauty—congratulations, my friend. Please cherish that smile and don’t ever let go. Most importantly, you have to understand what you truly want before committing your life to another person.
4. On the same page
Seeing eye to eye on certain matters and being on the same page—now that’s important. I’ve seen couple ending a relationship because they couldn’t decide whether to have their parents move in with them after marriage or not.
Then again, the root of the problem might run deeper than this issue alone but let’s not delve into this topic for now.
For example, the issue of having children or not.
Now, having a kid is a long-term commitment and some people might prefer not to have any.
Most of the time, problems arise when one party wants a kid while the other would prefer not to have one.
Times like these, the couple will have to talk things out and arrive at some sort of agreement.
Understanding the perspective of your significant other is important in a relationship.
While it might not be possible to share the same views on a particular issue all the time, it also goes to show how much effort one is willing to put in when it comes to understanding their partner.
5. You’re doing it because you want to
Here comes something really cliched. At some point in your life, you must’ve heard at least one of your friends talk about love. Heck, maybe you’ve done it too.
Just what is love? And what makes you know he/she is the one?
To some, love cannot be explained. It’s a feeling. An emotion that stems from within your heart, if that makes sense to you. To some others, love is simply a chemical reaction amplifying the innate needs of a human being. You can also see it as some sort of catalyst, speeding up the process and closing the gap between two people.
No matter if you’re a hopeless romantic, a realist or someone that falls between or outside of the spectrum— I’m sure we’ll always find a way to justify our affection towards another person.
And most importantly, it’s because you want to. It’s about knowing that you want to spend the rest of your life with the person whose hands you’re holding right now. While life still goes on without this person’s presence, you would very much rather for him/her to be a part of your life.
So, with that being said, do you think you’re ready for marriage? At the end of the day, this is a question only you can answer. Remember to go with your heart or you might just regret for life.
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