A 23-year-old woman has come forward with allegations of an improper relationship with her female primary school teacher that began in 2014 when she was just 12 years old.
The teacher, who was 26 at the time, has since been promoted to vice principal at a primary school.
Primary School “Relationship” Left Lasting Emotional Impact
The woman shared that the relationship with her form teacher started when she was in Primary 6. The relationship included holding hands, caressing each other’s faces, and meeting secretly in the evening.
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“We would often text each other until 3am or 4am and gave each other nicknames. We would hold hands, and the teacher would kiss my forehead, stroke my hair, and hug me,” the woman told Shin Min Daily News.
Messages between them showed the teacher using expressions like “I love you” and “I miss you,” often accompanied by heart emojis. The teacher also addressed her as “Peapod” (a private nickname for the woman) or “my love” in handwritten notes.
“There was a period in primary school where we did take a break, because she was like, oh, this is wrong,” the woman recalled.
“I didn’t really know what it was at the time. I had never been in a relationship. She used to tell me about her problems and cry. Now that I look back, it was really like we were dating.”
The teacher also wrote affectionate letters to her through a shared blog.
In one letter, the teacher wrote in third person: “She should not be like that. She is an educator. She is a teacher. She is supposed to know better. She is supposed to maintain professional distance.”
Decade-Long Struggle for Closure After “Breakup”
The relationship changed when the teacher began dating a man and eventually got married in 2017. The entire class was reportedly invited to her wedding.
After what the woman described as a “breakup,” the teacher grew distant, responding to messages less frequently — except during significant life events like her divorce or relocation.
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In 2018, the woman, who was suffering from depression at the time, asked to meet the teacher to pass her a letter.
“It was a very, very long letter, to talk about what happened, how I’m depressed, and how I feel she’s a big part of this, and how I still have no idea what’s going on,” she said. However, the woman never received a response.
The woman has been battling depression for five years and has been on medication since 2020. The unresolved relationship continues to affect her ability to form new relationships.
“I find it difficult to start a new relationship. This is something both my future partner and I must learn to accept,” she said. “I am still living in her shadow, and I don’t know how to deal with these traumas.”
It was only last year — a full 10 years after the relationship quietly ended — that the woman fully understood how improper the situation had been.
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MOE Investigation Following Vice Principal Promotion
The woman decided to report the incident to MOE after learning that the teacher had been promoted to vice principal last year. The promotion triggered what she described as a “sudden realisation” about the nature of their past relationship.
“I’ve always been wondering, does she even care about what happened? Because she’s so reluctant to meet me…It was kind of frustrating. I wish we just settled it, once and for all,” she said.
The woman stressed that she isn’t seeking a public apology. “I don’t want someone to tell her to make a public apology. I just want closure,” she explained. She hopes for a private conversation where the teacher can acknowledge what happened.
“I hope the teacher can tell me if she has been as troubled by this matter as I have,” she added.
Last October, authorities had arranged a meeting between the two parties. However, the woman said it was called off after the school principal asked to join.
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According to Mothership, an MOE spokesperson said they are currently reviewing the case with the new information submitted, and that the officer in question “is no longer deployed at any school.”
“MOE takes a serious view of staff misconduct and will take disciplinary action against those who fail to adhere to our standards of conduct and discipline.”
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