If you’ve a friendship that lasted for more than 7 years, then he or she will…

Last Updated on 2016-05-18 , 3:23 pm

If you’ve a friendship that lasted for more than 7 years, then he or she will be your friend for a lifetime.

Bullshit. Totally, 101% bullshit.

That’s if you take it as an absolute of course.

This is the kind of things that only serves as a general guide. Anybody with the IQ of a kneecap will know that each individual is unique and each friendship is unique as well. Ask around, and you’ll know that there are friendships that have broken up after decades. This is life, and shit happens. And shit tend to break friends up too.

The point of this statement is not to say there is a window period, a “probation period” for friendships whereby if you make it through, you’re done. Friendships require maintenance, meaning that if at any point of time you fail to make the necessary effort to maintain it, it breaks down, explaining the broken decade-long friendships.

7 years is a long time. And lets see what we can do in 7 years. We can graduate primary school. We can raise a kid to schooling age. We can shit 2555 times if we shit once a day. Many things happen in 7 years. And when you have a friend of 7 years, it means that you have finished school together, or you have endured the pain of parenthood together, or you have gone through 2555 shits together, basically you have been through a lot. And surviving all that means that you are able to support each other under stress, and will likely survive any crisis life will be able to throw at you in the future. Hence the saying “If you’ve a friendship that lasted for more than 7 years, then he or she will be your friend for a lifetime.”

However, that does not guarantee anything. Life is crazy, and it throws all kinds of shit at you, hoping that one of them will be too big or foul for you to swallow. A business failure, a girl that both of you fell for, a certain online quote that made one of you decide to stop putting in effort in the friendship after 7 years, all of these are potential friendship breakers. And one might be headed for you right now.

The only way to ensure a friendship lasts forever, is to put in conscious effort. Conscious effort to stay in touch, conscious effort to help, conscious effort to care for each other. And if your friendship managed to last for 7 years, you are likely doing it right. Keep going that way, and I’m sure the friendship will last a lifetime.