Marriage is a scam.
There, I said it. No, I’m not talking about the act of two people loving each other and wanting to be each other’s better half as a scam.
I’m talking about the wedding industry.
It’s the most successful marketing campaign that now runs as a societal wide scam sold by people in the industry that marriages are romantic when it is, in fact, a financial and emotional burden on the only two people involved in the wedding.
In case you didn’t know or somehow missed the memo, weddings are not in fact done for the couple, but for other people in their lives whom they somehow have to please by spending S$20,000-S$25,000 and putting on fake smiles. Some of the people you invite might even be people you don’t know!
Let’s be honest. I couldn’t care less about attending another standard copy-and-paste wedding, and if you’re getting married, certainly don’t feel pressured by an arbitrary group of people who don’t know about you to hold one.
Unless, of course, you actually think the wedding is super important. Do what you want and don’t let people judge you for it.
With that said, here’s the story for the hour.
Wedding Done Without Most of the ‘Basics’
A Malaysian couple posted on the bride’s Facebook that their wedding cost them less than RM 1000 (~S$330), and detailed what they had in the wedding and didn’t. This was then followed by the reasons why they did so.
The post subsequently went viral with 8,400 reactions, 2,800 comments, and 5,800 shares.
Here’s the list of stuff they didn’t include in the wedding:
- Dais (wedding throne)
- Wedding photography
- Kompang (drums) procession
- Silat (martial arts performance)
- Music DJ
- Wedding cake
- Bridal footwear
The bride’s parents are also not included in the wedding (it’s implied she’s an orphan).
Here’s what they did include:
- 7 siblings
- Close friends
- Groom’s family
- Dowry of RM 500 (~S$164)
- Gold ring
- Feast with prayer
Here’s Why The wedding Was As Such
The original post is in Malay, and I’m using a translator so there’s a lot of nuances that you’re not going to get if you need the full reason.
Before going on about the reasons, she stated that they were both degree holders from Universiti Sains Malaysia (USM), and she also happens to be a dean lister. She put it out there because there will be people who judge them and make judgments about money issues.
Both of them had accepted each other, and the money is actually being put to good use. By good use, I mean that they spent money on their new home, and as they both grew up poor, much of their money also went to feeding the homeless.
Her now-husband is also the only man who went with her to the orphanage with her siblings and sacrificed a lot to help her and her siblings.
And with that, as long as the two of them are happy, it’s really none of my business. It’s their wedding. Not mine.