So we are all in the era where online dating is a common thing now. It used to be looked down upon because, I don’t know, perhaps it seemed like you weren’t able to get a date in real life so you had to resort to finding someone online. Or perhaps it was because people were still afraid of the dangers of online dating.
Whatever it is, with the prevalence of Tinder and Bumble, it is seen as a norm these days and many people have found success through online dating.
Of course, not everyone’s online dating experiences are pleasant. Just like this Malaysian girl when she encountered a ‘Nice Guy’ on the Facebook dating app.
‘Nice Guy’ Syndrome
If you didn’t already know, there is such a thing as the ‘Nice Guy’ syndrome.
So what exactly is that?
It is a phenomenon where men believe that they are entitled to a woman because they are ‘nice guys’ and they will criticise you if you reject them. He will use sexist terms to describe why he’s nice and why you should date him, put down other guys because they’re, in his eyes, ‘scum’, blame you for having issues and imply that you are wrong and you will regret it for not dating him.
And the most important characteristic of all? He calls himself one of the ‘good guys’. And I’m sure by now you would have known that it’s a major red flag.
Sounds familiar? Maybe you’ve encountered one yourself before.
The Story
According to World Of Buzz, it all began on Friday, 18 October, when this Malaysian lady by the name of Carrine decided to set up her Facebook Dating account. She then met this Singaporean man the next morning who turned out to be one of the ‘Nice Guys’.
They exchanged phone numbers because they both agreed that they were not active on Facebook, so it would be much easier to communicate with each other over Whatsapp.
The man was friendly and asked many questions about her, which sounds pretty typical because when you’re doing this online, you’re just trying to get to know the person a little better. But things started to take a turn when he started showing his true colours because started to get nosier.
Take a chill pill, mate.
Obviously, when this happens, you would be taken aback and would probably try not to share as much about yourself, which was what Carrine felt.
So she ignored him for a couple of hours and had some time for herself, only to come back to a barrage of messages. Clearly, someone was getting bitter because his new interest wasn’t replying him fast enough.
She explicitly told him that she wanted to take things slow because she felt like he was coming on too strong, but he totally ignored what she said and instead showed more of his true colours.
He initially tried to be nice and things would have ended on a good note if he ended there.
But surprise, surprise. He didn’t.
Funnily enough, Carrine was nice enough to wish him all the best in his pursuit of happiness, but he wasn’t done with her yet.
He proceeded to go on a full-on rampage, making personal attacks and baseless judgements about how she lived her life.
He even went as far as to make comments about her nationality and generalise her entire country for having a certain mindset.
And then he flexed on her, telling her that she’s missing out by choosing not to date him. He sent her photos of his bank account that showed an account balance of $354,000 and stacks of cash. He also made it a point to tell her that he paid for a Ulysse Nardin watch that cost $47,000. Typical ‘Nice Guy’.
And uhh… I’m pretty sure she’ll be okay without all those cash if it means not having to deal with these kinds of attacks on her personality.
He ended off by once again criticising Malaysians in general, saying that they are all losers and implied that she was lucky enough that he decided to try moving forward with her.
He apparently claimed to have a car accessories trading business and also co-own a car leasing company. He also mentioned that he was venturing into the logistics industry and has been single since October 2016.
I wonder why.
Carrine reported this incident to Facebook but she doubts anything would be done. According to World Of Buzz, she decided to share her experience online because she wanted to warn others to be careful when they meet people online.
Remember people, online dating is a platform for you to get to know more people and see if things can work out. If one just isn’t feeling it, be classy and take the rejection. Don’t try to flex on that person and tell them that they’re missing out. If you were really as good as you said you were, you wouldn’t have needed to flex on them like that. They would have been naturally attracted to you.
Well, we hope you’re proud of yourself.
Don’t be a ‘Nice Guy’.
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