S’porean Man Blindfolds Girlfriend In BDSM Rolepay And Then Lets Another Man Rape Her

2019-11-06 , 1:00 pm

Everyone has their kinks.

20 years ago, if you told a friend you were into BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), they’d slowly back away from you as if you just told them you enjoy eating puppies for breakfast.

Now, with the advent of mainstream ‘literature’ like 50 Shades of Grey, BDSM is a bit like Nutella; many people like it and openly profess their love for it on social media.

However, as with any sexual activity, roleplay, or kink, there is one absolutely essential and necessary component: consent.

Unfortunately, some people care more about their own pleasure than their lover’s consent, even if it means their own girlfriend will be raped.

Man Blindfolds Girlfriend In BDSM Rolepay And Then Lets Another Man Rape Her

Srihari Mahendran, who was invited by a man he met online to take part in a non-consensual threesome with the man’s girlfriend, is on trial for 10 charges of various sexual offences – including four for rape – against the woman in 2016.

The boyfriend of the victim, a 28-year-old former auxiliary police officer, cannot be named due to a gag order to protect the identity of the woman. We shall call him J for ease of referral.

Wanted to “spice things up”

J was in a relationship with the 28-year-old female victim at the time. After watching the movie 50 Shades Of Grey to “spice things up”, the couple started engaging in soft bondage practices.

However, when J asked his girlfriend for a threesome, she rejected the idea. So, J respectfully accepted her girlfriend’s boundaries and abandoned the idea altogether.

That’s what J should have done. Instead, he hatched a threesome plan without his girlfriend’s consent.

In 2015, J started talking online to Srihari, who was then 20, about sexual matters. He discussed his threesome plan with Srihari and found that the latter was enthusiastic about the plan.

As J said, “(Srihari’s) sense of keen eagerness in the idea made me discuss with him more about how this would happen.”

Srihari was eager even though J made it clear that his girlfriend was “not okay” with a threesome and would not be aware of who was having sex with her.

This should have set off alarm bells in Srihari’s head, but, clearly, his brain was severely lacking in the blood that had rushed to other areas of his body.

The two men even discussed precautions to take to ensure she could not tell that another person was having sex with her.

This included putting pantyhose on the victim so she wouldn’t notice the other man’s hairy legs. Srihari also had to maintain silence and refrain from smoking.

Raped her on two different occasions

On the night of 29 April 2016, the men decided to put their plan into action. J let Srihari into a room at Hotel 81 Bugis while the victim was bound and blindfolded. He had sex with her before Srihari took over.

J recorded video of Srihari having sex with the woman and even made moaning sounds to make it seem like he was the one intimate with her.

But once wasn’t enough for these monsters. Later that year on 7 Aug, J again let Srihari rape his girlfriend at the M Social Hotel in Robertson Quay while she was bound and blindfolded.

The poor woman later said that she believed that she was having sex with her boyfriend at all times.

Caught in the act

On the second occasion, the woman eventually realised someone other than her boyfriend was in the room. She removed her blindfold and untied herself as Srihari made his escape.

Thankfully, the two men were arrested at the hotel. Srihari’s DNA was later found in swabs taken from the victim’s body.

“Wasn’t at the top of my head”

When J was asked in court if he knew that his plan was an offence, he replied: “At the time, it wasn’t at the top of my head.”

Now, there are a few questions to which the answer “it wasn’t at the top of my head”, would be suitable:

1. Why didn’t you fix that wonky cupboard door? – “Oh, it wasn’t at the top of my head”

2. Why didn’t you pay your electricity bills? – “At the time, it wasn’t at the top of my head.”

But when you’re asked if you knew that raping someone is an offence, “At the time, it wasn’t at the top of my head”, is simply not an appropriate response.

Fortunately, the man is now behind bars, serving a jail term of 19 years and 11 months after pleading guilty last year to abetting Srihari to rape and sexually assault his girlfriend.

As for Srihari, yesterday (5 Nov) was the first day of his trial. He faces 10 charges of various sexual offences, including four for rape. The trial will continue today (Nov 6).

Relationships can be tricky, but consent isn’t. If your partner or lover says they are uncomfortable with something, accept it; respect their boundaries. Their comfort is certainly more important than your pleasure.