If you’ve restricted yourself from saying these 10 hurtful things to your bae, you’re in a committed relationship

Last Updated on 2016-05-19 , 1:42 pm

When you are in a proper, happy relationship, there are certain unwritten rules that you need to know and follow if you want to stay in it for long. I’m sure many of you have had family and friends telling you what not to say to your other half but understandably, there will also be times when he or she gets on your nerves so much, you just want to flip the table on them and say the most horrendous of things to them.

But before you start shooting your mouth off, try and remember all the wonderful memories the both of you have shared and use them to simmer things down a notch. You might find that there is no need for those painful things to be said at all.

If you have ever restricted yourself from saying the following hurtful stuff to your bae, good for you, because it shows you’re serious about the relationship. And if your partner does the same, they’re taking it seriously as well. Congratulations!

“I don’t know why I agreed to be with you in the first place.”
Before you say something like this, ask yourself what made you fall in love with your partner in the first place. Once you answer that, you will find that there’s no need to say something like this.

“Times like this I realise I don’t love you that much.”
Your partner may understand why you said such a thing but it still hurts. How would you feel? How long would it be before your partner cannot take it anymore and say, “I don’t love you anymore”?

“How did I allow myself to end up with such a stupid person?”
No one’s that smart or stupid so don’t compare. It always pays to be humble, even with your partner. If you truly love your partner, you wouldn’t put your partner down.

“I hate your guts.”
Honestly, if your partner decide to run away from a situation that clearly needed their intervention, then fine. But if it is just a petty argument, it’s best to put this out of your mind. Especially if your partner is male, it’s literally gut wrenching.

“You are a horrible partner.”
I’m not talking about saying something like this in jest. This is not something I will like to hear too because it just means my partner never thought very much of me. Throughout the years of relationship you shared with each other.

“Let’s break up/Let’s divorce.”
The biggest no-no. No matter how angry or disappointed you are, never ever bring this up. Unless, well, you are really planning to do so.

“You will never be better than me.”
Comparisons? Hold on now, this shouldn’t be done between baes right? So what if your family is richer or you are more educated? You chose to be with him/her didn’t you? So, grow up and play nice. Your partner deserves that much.

“I lowered my expectations when I decided to be your partner.”
Then why did you agree to be in a relationship in the first place? Putting your partner down is not the way to go and should never be as such.

“A dog might be a better companion than you.”
This takes it to an even lower level. Saying an animal is better than your partner is just low. Although we know sometimes, well, dogs can actually be more therapeutic.

“Your family is all kinds of f-ed up.”
This is a personal attack in so many ways. You can attack the person and face your issues head on but never, ever attack his or her family. Unless they did something untoward to you but that’s a story for another time.

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