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23YO S’porean Lady Shares Her Experience Of Being A Sugar Baby; Clarifies That She Is Not A Sex Worker

2020-01-04 , 12:00 pm

Last Updated on 2020-01-05 , 5:45 pm

Money doesn’t grow on trees.

It requires hard work and effort to earn it. Of course, unless you’re born with a golden spoon and you inherit your rich family’s fortune.

Which is why it is everyone’s dream to meet a rich partner, get married, and be a housewife/househusband for life.

Obviously not everyone has the chance to do that. I mean, what are the odds of that happening?

Well, I’m here to get your hopes up, because there is actually a chance to meet a rich partner and even earn an income from them.

Let me introduce you to the world of sugar dating.

Singaporean Lady Shares Her Experience Of Being A Sugar Baby

A 23-year-old Singaporean lady, Felice Ang, is “lucky” and “grateful” to be with her boyfriend. She is constantly showered with expensive gifts and experiences such as hotel stays, the latest gadgets, and even custom jewellery.

Not to mention, cold, hard cash as well.

How on Earth is she getting so many “privileges” in this relationship? Is her boyfriend super-rich or something? Well, kinda. It’s because she is in a sugar relationship.

Felice is currently a “sugar baby” to her 35-year-old “sugar daddy”, a British banker who’s divorced. She meets him about twice a month when he flies into Singapore.

As a member of the controversial Malaysian-based sugar dating site Sugar Book, Felice shares her experience of being a sugar baby.

How It All Started

It all started around “two, three years ago” when she was struggling with keeping up with her financial needs.

She was an undergraduate at that time, and money was a “necessity” for her to pay her university fees that were well into the $50k range. Her parents were unable to cope with her student loans as they were both working in F&B.

Felice was an only child, struggling to keep herself in school by working two part-time jobs at that time. On her worst days, she had to survive on instant noodles and a loaf of bread for the entire week.

At the lowest point, one could only seek a solution. Hence, one day when she was attending one of her student hall parties, she got to know about sugar dating.

Some of her mutual friend’s girlfriends were sharing about their “sugar daddies” experiences, which got her intrigued. She was then introduced into the world of sugar dating and has never looked back since then.

The World Of Sugar Dating

So what exactly is sugar dating?

According to some websites, a sugar relationship is where the sugar daddy provides mentorship and financial support to a much younger woman. In return, the sugar baby is required to meet the needs of the sugar daddy.

Here comes the million-dollar question: Is sex an obligation then?

The answer is no, it isn’t, and sugar babies are not illegal sex workers as well. It is not required for sugar babies to provide sexual services to their sugar daddies. Instead, they mostly provide emotional support.

Of course, it is completely up to the sugar baby if she is okay with a sexual relationship with her sugar daddy. For Felice’s case, her sugar relationships were sexual.

She sees sex as a form of love in her relationships, where intimate contact is a natural development in the relationship.

Rules And Boundaries

With any relationship comes rules and boundaries. A sugar relationship has no exceptions.

Firstly, there should be mutual respect. A sugar baby has to respect her sugar daddy’s schedule and his needs, while the sugar daddy has to respect his sugar baby’s boundaries.

Another requirement that the agency requires is exclusivity on both sides. However, faithfulness is not something that can be easily enforced.

On top of that, Felice draws the line at dating a married man. She said that “as much as I believe in sugar dating, I have my own parents, so I don’t wish (for) my father to have another sugar baby outside when he has my mum.” Likewise, she doesn’t want to be the third party that cuts into another man’s marriage.

Additionally, Felice does not tolerate disrespect from her sugar daddy. She stated that there should be mutual respect for each other’s cultural differences.

Asian and Western values are not always the same, hence she believes that both parties should speak up and not step over each other’s culture.

Her Stand On Sugar Dating

As expected, being part of a controversial community comes with its own stigma. Felice experiences it with her close friends, where they would cast aspersions on her, remarking that she is in sugar dating just for the finance.

In response to these stigmas, she defended sugar dating as a form of female empowerment, where women have a choice on the type of relationship they want to pursue.

“My stand on being a sugar baby is that it should not be viewed negatively, it should not be viewed transactionally. It’s just like a platform where women can choose their ideal relationship,” Felice explained.

A Temporary Arrangement

Her first and only non-sugar relationship ended when she was 18. She was working abroad doing her internship when they parted, which scarred her deeply.

Perhaps this is why she prefers to seek a sugar relationship. It provides her with the financial gains she needs as well as companionship. It temporarily meets her needs without the commitment of a long term relationship.

Sugar dating does not have the intensity of a long term relationship, which results in less emotional pain when it terminates. Given that it is a temporary relationship to fill in the needs of each other, she learned that she has to be not so emotionally attached to the arrangements in sugar dating.

She also mentioned that as long as they have the ability to keep up with the meeting frequencies and enjoy the finer things in life together, it is sufficient for her.

Sure, a sugar relationship can meet your temporary needs. It can afford you many material things in life.

But does it give you the love and warmth you need in your lifetime?

Article source: Singaporean sugar baby making $3,000 a month: We’re not sex workers