Avery, Author at Goody Feed

Here’s a tip: do not cheat on your wife. If you do, keep it a secret in your head. There’ll be enough room after you throw away all your conscience anyway. But clearly, a man who had been married for 30 years decided it was not enough to clear away the conscience in his head: his brains had to go too. After cheating on his wife, he not only forced his wife to accept the mistress but also tried to settle his mistress in the family home, according to The Straits Times. The audacity! Married Man Tries to Get Mistress to Move in The man took a mistress when he left the civil service for a new job, and “sought acceptance” of the mistress from his wife in 2014, according to The Straits Times. What the @##$@3@#$$%$#? (Look, my jaw's on the ground.) His wife, somehow, unwillingly agreed to his cheating. I shudder to think what kind of coercion it involved. That acquiescence lasted for three years till December 2017, when she and her two grown-up children left the matrimonial home. She filed for divorce two months later. You go, girl. It’s about time. An interim judgment was then issued in June 2018, where Family Court District Judge Kathryn Thong believed the husband behaved with such impropriety that the wife could not reasonably believe to continue the marriage. I have no idea why it took four months to come to that conclusion on Singapore’s arguably most shameless cheater. According to the judgment, the husband’s behaviour included “requesting the wife to accept his mistress into the family and into the matrimonial home”. Because the husband can clearly live with seeing his mistress side by side with the fact that he had built a family on the promise of fidelity. Maybe the wife should have taken a mister in revenge. A more complete judgment published last month detailed how “the husband claimed in these proceedings that the wife was happy with this arrangement", and he was apparently surprised that she was in fact not happy with it (duh)—hence the mention of divorce. Did he confuse his wife for his mistress? I wouldn’t be surprised. And it turns out that the couple's two sons admitted in a deposition to the court that they feared angering their "harsh disciplinarian" father, which is why they had reluctantly accepted his mistress' living in the family home. The plot has thickened! He also claimed several times he wanted his wife to return to him, because, obviously, that’s a reasonable expectation after he decided to flaunt the fact that he cheated on her in her face everyday. This is apparently under the backdrop that the wife, after 30 years of marriage, had sacrificed much of her career and professional advancement to care for their family. She took on much of the child-rearing duties so that her husband’s career could advance, and often delayed her promotions for that reason. Judge Thong observed the wife had a “stabilising role” in the family by caring for her two sons while her husband frequently attended overseas assignments, at the cost of her own career. She therefore concluded that, while monetary earnings came more from the husband, both parties had played an important role in creating their family wealth. The judge continued that “as the years went by, ambition and financial gain became his priority”, and that both children are detached from their father as a result. In exchange for a higher salary, he gave up all his celery. You know, that’s why he has no moral fibre whatsoever. (Haha, get it?) The total matrimonial assets of the couple totalled around $2.74 million, including the matrimonial home, insurance, and a condominium unit. The condominium was awarded 31% to the wife and 69% to the husband, while 55% the rest—worth about $2.45 million—will be given to the wife. At least she’s a millionaire now. The husband is appealing against the judgment, because it is evidently unfair that his wife gets millions after she sacrificed her entire career to raise a family that he left behind and egregiously cheated on. So unfair! Feature Image: Sorapop Udomsri / Shutterstock.com