FB User Shames ‘Unruly’ Guy Online But Forgets That Eyewitnesses Use FB Too


Last Updated on 2017-06-29 , 9:51 am

It’s all too common nowadays: you don’t like how someone treated you, and the first counter isn’t a string of vulgarities like it used to be, but to post his image online and shame him.

Next, do some omission of facts, because Rashomon effect (which I’ll get back on that later), and ta-da: you think you’ve got the best offence ever.

Of course, in this case, let’s not draw to any conclusion yet since there’re two sides of the story, but here’s what has happened so far.

So, Facebook user Xia Amber related her bad experience with a guy in Singapore University Studio, which I presume to be Singapore Universal Studio or Universal Studios Singapore (that’s a big difference man: in one, you suffer, and in the other one, you enjoy).

Here’s what she wrote in its entirety:

Cannot believe such disgusting person can exist in Singapore.

Today, my friend, a mum of 3 year old girl, and I was watching the fireworks with our kids in Singapore University Studio. A man (with picture below) suddenly crossed the head of my friend’s 3 year old daughter from our back. His shoe skimmed through the little girl and almost stepped on her head. However, He did not even look back and just walked away. My friend’s kid was scared and asked her mum: why that uncle hit my head?

Until now we were thinking maybe that man did not see the kid. Moreover, two kids had a great day and we did not want to make bad things big. In addition, that man walked away from seat as well. So even though we were very angry but I gently asked the girl (probably his girlfriend or wife) sitting beside him that please ask him to be mindful of young child while walking. The girl was polite and said sorry to us. We thought it was the end and continued to enjoy the firework. However, to our surprise, that man returned to his seat. Not sure what his girlfriend or wife told him. He did not apologize to us BUT started shouting to us that it was not his fault stepping on kid because we blocked his way so we should apologize to him. He also used his mobile phone camera to flash us. Any parent knows that mobile flash is very harmful to young child’s eyes.I was so shocked and stopped him from flashing my kid. What kind of scum will shout to 2 mum and two 3 year old kids after stepping on kid head even if he did not do it intentionally?! My friend and I stopped arguing with him as our kids were so scared by him and hold us tightly. We also feared that he may hit us.

I cannot believe I come across such person in Singapore and not sure how to deal with such kind of person in singapore. But I truly believe an old saying: good is rewarded and evil is punished.

I’m not embedding the post that complements her defence (or offence, or whatever you want it to be), as she also included an image of a guy who merely…was not very happy. Yeah, that’s all.

Just when you think that everyone will come to her defence, because “whoever posts first in social media is the winner,” you’re wrong.

People who were there gave a different story, because Rashomon effect (tell you to wait liao, I’m going to talk about it soon).

And of course, it turns out that most people there are Facebook users. Wait, who isn’t?


Amber Xia has yet to reply, but here’s the thing: we Singaporeans know about the Rashomon effect.

To put it in its simplest form, we know that when a one-sided story like this is made public, there’re bound to be two sides to the story, and it’s almost common for people to omit a bit of facts here and there to be the “good guy”.

The simple notion of this mindset is enough for us to move towards a better society, because that means we’re now more critical of what we read, and tend to be more objective instead of emotional when we see something like that.

You can read more about Rashomon effect here.

But anyway, here’s a lesson for us all: if you do something wrong and decide to use social media to shame someone, please remember that we all have social media accounts, too.


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This article was first published on goodyfeed.com 

Featured Image: Facebook (Xia Amber)