I believe that everything should be equal in a relationship.
This includes effort, support, communication, respect, and of course, finances.
That means that you shouldn’t take advantage of your girlfriend or boyfriend’s generosity.
Sure, you can treat each other, but it’s important to be financially independent and not have to depend on the other person for money.
Why? Because it puts pressure on the other person and puts you in a subservient position; you constantly owe them and that gives them a certain power, changing the dynamic of the relationship.
One woman in Malaysia can certainly attest to this after her husband refused to buy her a cup of corn worth $0.65.
Selfish husband
A pregnant wife in Malaysia recently took to Facebook to complain about her selfish husband.
According to the woman, the man refused to buy her an RM2 (S$0.65) cup of corn that she was craving, saying he wanted to save money.
But after the husband sent her home, she checked his phone and found that he had purchased motorcycle parts.
You’re probably thinking, Okay, he’s a controlling husband, but I don’t see anything wrong with him buying parts for his bike.
You see, the problem is that he spent his and his wife’s money on the bike. The husband is in control of both their finances and holds on to her IC and bank card. So, she’s not even allowed to have access to her inherited money from her late father’s Employee Provident Fund.
This guy takes ‘insecure male with an ego’ to a whole new level.
Made wife quit her job
It’s bad enough that he controls and spends her inheritance, but he also made his wife quit her job. So, it’s not like she chose not to work and simply expected her husband to pay for her things. No, she used to have money of her own.
But because her husband is so insecure about his masculinity, he made her quit her job because it would make him look bad if she used money from her own wallet in public.
Translation – I’m an insecure little man-child who thinks women should be dominated and controlled by men so they can feel bigger than they actually are.
Can’t visit own mother
The pregnant woman, understandably, is incredibly frustrated with her husband:
“I used to love buying makeup but I had to leave that all behind after I stopped working, my husband didn’t allow it. But I don’t want to spend my husband’s money. When I was first married, I still worked, and he’d take my salary from me so that when we bought things, I couldn’t take money out of my own wallet as it would make him look shameful to the public eye”, she said.
According to World of Buzz, the husband even stopped her from visiting her own mother, in fear that her mother would ask for money.
The blood inside me is boiling so much I might just start whistling.
She ends her post describing all the things she’s not allowed to do.
“I am like a beggar but I never complained. Before I got married, I would go over to my mother’s house and chat with her but now when I invite him to visit my mother at least once a month, he pulls a face as he’s scared my mother would ask for money. The worst part is that I’m not even allowed to leave to go to the shops in front of my house or ask my 8-year-old sister to accompany me at home as he works the night shift. I have to share my story here because I have no friends, my life is just within the house”.
I don’t understand guys who don’t want their wives or girlfriends to work because it makes them insecure. Surely more money would be better for the household? And even if you don’t like it, who are you to control them and tell them what they can or cannot do?
I’d personally advise this poor woman to leave this controlling man, but she’s pregnant and life isn’t always that simple.
If you’re choosing to be with one person for the rest of your life, please, choose wisely.
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