S’porean Man Who Drugged & Rape-Shared His Wife For 8 Years Faces 29 Years Of Jail

Last Updated on 2023-05-16 , 10:12 am

On 4 May 2023, the High Court sentenced the primary leader of a group of seven men to 29 years in prison and 24 strokes of the cane for his involvement in drugging and raping each other’s wives. 

The men had been part of an online forum, SammyBoy, where they shared their wife-sharing fantasies and eventually carried out disturbing actions on their unsuspecting partners.

The 42-year-old Singaporean safety officer, the mastermind behind the group, had collaborated with five other members to rape his wife while she was unconscious over the course of eight years. 

Due to a gag order imposed by the Court, the parties’ identities cannot be disclosed.

The ringleader, referred to as “J” in the case, had blindfolded and drugged his wife to carry out these unspeakable acts and conspired with two other men to commit similar offences on their wives for several years.

Shocking Details of The Crime

Among the men, J faced the most charges, pleading guilty to five counts of conspiring to commit rape and one charge of sexual assault on 4 May 2023.

The High Court sentenced J to 29 years in jail and 24 strokes of the cane, along with similar harsh sentencing for the other parties involved.

Justice See Kee Oon supported his harsh sentencing as the crimes involved a “shocking betrayal of marital trust and egregious sexual perversion”.

According to J, he and his wife married in 2008 and have four children together. 

J had initially suggested a threesome to his wife by showing her pornographic videos of such arrangements, but she rebuffed his proposal.

Instead of respecting his wife’s wishes, J devised a plan to sedate his wife so that other men could have sex with her. 

Between 2009 and 2010, J met accomplices O and K on Sammyboy’s online forum in a thread about wife-sharing. 

Besides discussing their wife-sharing fantasies, they also exchanged explicit videos and images of each other’s wives with one another.

Perhaps encouraged by the “openness” of the online forum, which allowed them to discuss these otherwise taboo topics, the men eventually decided to turn their fantasies into reality.

Online Forum’s Role In Crimes

Unsurprisingly, Sammyboy, a website founded by a Singaporean man named Mr Samuel Leong in 1997, mainly focuses on sexual themes.

It even features a collection of sexually explicit images and stories contributed by forum members.

Initially, the website served as a list of recommendations for massage parlours and brothels in Singapore.

Over time, the forum’s primary purpose has been to exchange information about commercial sex, with all kinds of sexual discussions being allowed.

The website has come to the attention of the authorities in recent years due to its sexually provocative and, in some cases, illegal content. 

It is unknown whether the images on the site were taken with the consent of the individuals depicted.

Additionally, the site has been linked to several other high-profile cases, such as the obscene chat group “Sam’s Lot of CB Collection” that surfaced in 2019 on the messaging platform Telegram, which had approximately 25,000 members sharing indecent materials.

How the Crimes Were Conducted

J and K fulfilled their wife-sharing fantasies by using the wealth of information from the internet and the forum. 

Between 2010 and 2011, they agreed to drug their wives and let other men rape them. After settling on a suitable drug through research, they proceeded to carry out their plan.

K spiked his wife’s drink with the sedative sometime before 2012 and, after she fell unconscious, blindfolded her and invited J over. 

J then raped K’s wife while K took photos and watched. They repeated the act again in 2012.

Similarly, when J’s wife fell ill between 2010 and 2011, J replaced her medicine with a sedative, causing her to lose consciousness. 

J then invited K and another accomplice named O to his house to rape his wife while the rest of the household was asleep.

He had also installed a CCTV camera in his bedroom, which he used to livestream images of his wife while in the nude, presumably to showcase his sexual activities on SammyBoy. 

Similarly, K also had a webcam in his bedroom for live-streaming purposes, and the men would sometimes commend each other on putting on a “nice show” while watching the crimes.

According to the prosecution, J felt “a mixture of guilt and arousal” when watching other men rape his wife. 

Furthermore, after committing these heinous crimes, J and K shared images of the rape and sexual assault and “continued to reminisce” about them on the forum.

How the Men Got Caught

J’s despicable acts only came to light in January 2020 when his wife woke up before him and saw the abovementioned videos playing on his phone. 

This was after J had committed several rapes with other men on each other’s wives for years.

J was sleeping at the time, and his wife picked up the phone and came across his Skype chat with K. She saw explicit images of herself, and as she scrolled down the messages, she found out that the men had been trading their wives for sex.

Upon discovering the evidence, J’s wife was visibly shocked and demanded that J take her to K’s home. 

During the confrontation, K finally admitted to having sex with J’s wife while she was unconscious and confessed to drugging his wife for J to rape.

As a result, J’s wife made a police report on 2 January 2020, and incriminating photos and videos obtained from both men led to the identification of other accomplices.

No Excuse for Shocking Crimes

The prosecution team, led by Deputy Public Prosecutor Ms Gail Wong, asked for a prison sentence of between 28 to 32 years and a maximum of 24 strokes of the cane for J due to the significant amount of betrayal and breach of trust evident in the crimes.

Ms Wong supported the severe sentencing with the premeditated plans J used to drug his wife for others to rape her.

Despite J’s attempts to justify his actions, the prosecution remained resolute in their sentencing as psychiatrists affirmed that J was not of unsound mind and was capable of controlling his impulses.

Although J claimed to be regretful and desired to “make amends for his sins,” Judge See maintained a strict approach to his sentencing, citing that J’s plea for mitigation was “full of self-serving excuses” and efforts to shift the blame to others.

He further highlighted that J’s behaviour could not be alleviated by his purported “sex addiction”. 

Individuals with compulsive sexual behaviour disorder may struggle to control their tendency to engage in sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviours.

Ms Wong asserted that J was not only undiagnosed, but the disorder would only imply that he had a high sex drive, not an incapability to discern right from wrong.

As such, no mitigation would be given for such claims.

Impact of Crimes

Furthermore, according to research, the mental health of women who have been sexually assaulted can be severely affected even long after the incident. 

Although anxiety and intense fear usually peak around three weeks after the assault, they can last for more than a year for many survivors. 

Additionally, survivors can develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and may experience ongoing fears related to reminders of the attack. 

Such reminders can include legal proceedings, being around men, or being in a location that brings back memories of the assault. 

Survivors may also try to repress certain aspects of their experience as a coping mechanism against overwhelming feelings of confusion, shock, and bewilderment. 

This can lead to long-term feelings of low self-esteem, self-blame, and guilt.

Tried to Trivialise His Crimes

Despite the severity of his crimes, J attempted to diminish the gravity of his offences by attributing his actions to his wife’s affairs in 2010 and 2014, despite committing affairs himself during the same period. 

Nonetheless, Judge See stated that J’s supposed grievances did not warrant his actions. 

J then resorted to presenting a letter from his mother, which implored the court to show leniency to her son, who she claimed to be a “responsible and loving good father”.

She also stated that J was depressed as he feared his wife would divorce him during his imprisonment. 

Additionally, J claimed that his wife had forgiven him.

The prosecution contested this with a victim impact statement where his wife expressed her inability to overcome the brutality of his crimes. 

Judge See further noted that none of the other co-accused had been implicated in more than five offences, while J was involved in 17.

Overall Harsh Sentencing for Men

Consequently, the prosecution sentenced J to 29 years imprisonment and 24 strokes of the cane. 

In Court, he appeared devastated and acknowledged the punishment for his crimes. 

He also requested a psychiatric evaluation to address his mental state, claiming that psychiatric treatment was necessary for him to be considered safe enough to reunite with his family, whom he insisted “remained intact”. 

Currently, J is receiving psychiatric attention and counselling in prison.

At the same time, in November 2022, the court sentenced the other four men involved – K, L, M, and N – to jail terms ranging from 13-and-a-half years to 22 years, with three of them receiving 20 strokes of the cane. 

The fourth man did not receive the caning punishment as he was above 50. 

The sixth man, P, was sentenced in January 2022, while the case for the last man, O, is still pending.