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S’pore Mom Who Got Viral for Not Letting Her Kid Eat Cake During Birthdays Responds

Siti

2022-12-06 , 1:22 pm

I haven’t met a single person in my life who doesn’t like cakes.

Whether it’s chocolate cake or strawberry cake, there’s bound to be a flavor for everyone.

Unfortunately, this Singapore mom does not think that cakes—or rather, birthday cakes, are healthy for her child.

In fact, the mother took to TikTok to share her questionable views and was slammed by netizens.

In summary, her child is not allowed to eat birthday cakes in school unless it is her own birthday.

Here’s the gist:

The controversial TikTok puts into question the number of cakes children eat at their kindergartens’ birthday celebrations.

She explains that if her child has 25 to 30 classmates, that will mean that he will be eating 25-30 slices of cake in school per year.

She concluded that children should not be eating that many cakes in a given year.

So wait, what does her child eat while his classmates are enjoying cake you ask?

Well…. fruits apparently.

The only consolation is that the mother allows child to have a birthday cake in school when it comes to his own birthday.

Netizens’ Responses

One netizen remarked that remarking that her child’s therapist will be hearing about this in 25 years’ time.

While other netizens pointed out that teachers would know the appropriate portion to serve to each child and said that the slice would likely by a small one.

Some even said that they were glad that she was not their mother.

Her response to netizens

The mother has since responded to these netizens in a separate TikTok.

She noted that there had been a lot of unhappiness over her decision to not let her child eat birthday cakes in school “because of the implications socially and emotionally on her child.”

She then thanks everyone for sparing a thought for her child and says that she understands where they are coming from.

However, she explains that she is not just talking about the sugar in the cakes, but the fact that cake is a processed food which has chemicals and preservatives.

She also emphasizes that they do not avoid, but limit (processed food). She adds that the explanation she provides for her child is very important, instead of merely restricting.

She also says, “Processed food is found everywhere in our daily lives, in our daily diets right. Even in your pau and your bread. So of course, it doesn’t mean that we do not eat at all. But it’s because we are already eating it on such a regular basis.

“So, all the more we should be mindful, and we should actually be more selective in food especially if we’re eating for indulgence and not eating for necessity.”

Would Her Child Feel Lonely or Left Out?

She goes on to address how some netizens had said that her child would feel sad and left out and asked if her child is happy with her decision.

She confirms that her child had accepted her decision. However, she could not say for sure if he was happy with her decision:

“He asked before, I explained, and he accepted. And I was very surprised myself as if I wasn’t expecting it to be so called, so easy to convince him. So, I can’t say for sure that yay, you know he’s happy with my decision, but at least he’s able to see where I’m coming from.”

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“Eats It in Many Other Social Situations”

The mother also explains that although her son does not eat birthday cakes in school, he “eats it in many other social situations as well.”

Some examples include at a friends’ kids birthday party, friend’s house or even at their own house where she is able to see and remind him how much he should take.

This is also applicable to “other normal snacks”.

“When my friend offers him fish biscuits and he’s been eating quite a bit and of course I’ll tell him you know can we stop after five more fish biscuits. Let’s count. And he willingly agreed without any meltdowns.”

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather eat my fish biscuits without having to count them.

She then reiterates that moderation is key.

“So, what I’m trying to say is there is moderation and I choose the social setting that I would allow him to eat. Not all social settings. It’s just that in school I decided not to.”

Eating disorders?

She also addressed comments that her child might need therapy in the future for eating disorders.

She admitted to having suffered with revenge eating the past and had already discussed the topic with her husband before implementing the decision to not let her child eat birthday cakes in school.

Her argument in response to this is that her son eats cake in other social settings but not in school, thus, she is “very mindful not to go down the path of revenge eating.”

But She Consumes Coffee, Tea, Dessert, Bubble Tea and Ice Cream Too… Right?

The mother also admits to consuming coffee, tea, dessert, bubble tea and ice cream too. However, she understands that too much is bad for her health.

Thus, she chooses to exercise self-control and moderates them on her own.

She continues, “So I love my child right, and I want the best for him so I would also therefore teach him how to moderate and limit as well.”

Lastly, she addressed comments that teachers would know how to portion out cakes for the children.

Firstly, the mother thanked netizens for giving her “that dose of confidence and assurance”, however, at the end of the day she emphasizes the importance of moderation.

She then explains that everyone’s idea of moderation is very different. Hence, what is an acceptable amount for one person might be too much or too little for someone else.

At the end of the day, she hopes that everyone can be respectful of each other’s preferences without hate and judgement.

Well, to each their own… right?

View the TikTok here:

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Thanks for listening, I truly appreciate everyone’s concern for my child’s overall well-being😍

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