10 realest reasons why girls refuse to get into a relationship with you even though they really like you

Last Updated on 2016-05-20 , 11:53 am

Do you ever wonder why the girl you like is unwilling to be together with you even though she really, really like you? It’s not because girls are confusing (though we can be) and trying to play hard-to-get. No, that’s not it. We do have our own legitimate reasons as to why we do not want to get together with you.

For the confused and frustrated guys out there, here’s some reasons why that girl you like just refuses to get into a relationship with you.

Past relationships
Once a girl has suffered a heartbreak, she will not be so willing to go through another one. It’s painful, there’s no doubt about it. And sometimes, this causes her to be more wary of getting into new relationships. Even if she really like you, it still takes time before she would have the courage to take the risk. So if you happen to be chasing a girl that just had her heart broken recently, give her time. Let her know that you’re always going to be there for her.

You remind her of her ex boyfriend
Honestly, this is the worst category to fall into. This means that every time she looks at you, she sees him. And he may be someone that broke her heart badly, and if seeing you remind her of him, you might want to let this girl go. Or if you truly like her, slowly take the time to prove to her that you are nothing like him. That you are a completely different person and it’s only fair that she gives you a chance. This might take quite some time, but if she’s worth it, you’ll do it. Of course, you’ll stand the chance of being the poor rebound too. Just sayin’.

She is not ready
There are times where we are still considered young, and we have a whole road ahead of us. Getting into a relationship at an early age might not be the best idea to us. Especially since we heard numerous stories of how girls who got into a relationship became super distracted and lost focus on what’s important. We don’t want to be that girl. There’s no point pushing a girl if she’s in this category. If anything, it’ll drive her further away from you. Let her come to you on her own time. Let her know that being in a relationship might not necessarily mean that it’s a distraction, that two people can strive hard together to achieve their dreams.

Scared of ruining a friendship
When a girl starts getting close to a guy and fall for him, it is always a dilemma on whether she should sacrifice a beautiful friendship for something that might not work out eventually. But if you are serious about her, constantly reassure her that you will do your utmost best in maintaining this relationship. That sometimes, you just got to take a leap of faith and trust that good things will work out.

She does not have enough confidence in you
You may have come across as not mature enough for a relationship. When that happens, she tend to get more wary even if she may really like you. It’ll be good to show her that you have what it takes to be a good boyfriend. After all, it’s a learning process. No one starts off by being a great boyfriend or girlfriend. So let her know that you’re willing to learn.

You are unable to give her the security she needs
Most girls tend to thrive on a sense of security, and if you are not able to provide her that, it’s difficult for her to stay in a stable relationship with you. Without security, there will be no trust involved and no girl wants a relationship where she constantly has doubts about her boyfriend. So prove to her that she’s the only girl you have eyes on, and you’re totally serious about her.

You might be the guy that her best friend likes
And you know what they say: a best friend’s crush is off limits. Once her best friend has her eye on you, you are automatically un-date-able to her. She’ll see you as the guy her bestie has a crush on, and if she talks to you, it is usually regarding her best friend. Unless you make it clear that you have zero feelings towards her best friend, chances are, she’ll never get the hint. And she’ll keep every good feeling that she has deep down in her heart simply because it’s best friends over boyfriends.

She likes you, but she can’t see a future with you
There’s a fine line between really liking a person, and being able to see yourself with that person for years. She may like you a whole lot, but if she is unable to envision the two of you together in the long run, there’s a very high possibility that she will not get together with you. To her, there’s no point in getting together if she cannot see a future with you. To counter that, get to know about the kind of man she wants to marry. And if you think that you fit the criteria, prove that to her.

You’re too nice to TOO many girls
We all know of one guy who is nice to literally everyone, that sometimes, it’s hard to decipher whether he is nice because he likes you, or he is just being plain nice. And if you are that guy, well, that’s the reason why the girl you like may not want to be together with you even if she reciprocate your feelings for her. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong in being nice, it’s not a pleasant feeling to constantly see your boyfriend treating another girl almost as good as he treats you. You have to learn to draw a line between a girlfriend and a friend.

Her heart is not in the same country as you
Most of the time, when a girl has plans to go abroad to study, getting in a relationship would be last priority. Yes, she may like you, but getting together and this stage will just be unfair to the guy. At the end of the day, she’s leaving and giving up her dreams for a guy is just not something she would do.

It’s true that you can still get together even if one is leaving the country, but then there’s the whole stereotype on how long distance relationships will never work out. If she has not been in a relationship before, hearing these stories will affect her perception and all the more make her shun away from you.

But if you’re willing to go through that journey with her, the only way is to be the person that will support her in every way possible. Bit by bit, she may give you a chance. Maybe.

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