Righteous Stomper Took Video of Elderly Touching a Lady. So Righteous


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As the weather gets hotter in Singapore, the males also seem to get more hot-blooded.

How else do you explain the ever rising number of molestation cases?

And I haven’t even touched on the worst partnot everyone reports a case of molestation. So the actual number could be way more than the stated figure.

Not exactly the kind of culture Singapore wants, does it?

The girls should wear more,” people protest. “They should hit out when molested. Voice out. Deter the molesters.

To that, I ask: “If it was that easy, would molestation really have survived till today?”

So the topic I wanna touch on today… is it really the victim’s responsibility alone?

Picture this: you’re on a bus and you see a man touching a woman inappropriately. What do you do?

  1. Step up and ask for him to stop
  2. Video it and send it to Stomp
  3. Pretend not to see it and continue touching the guy in front of you inappropriately

Don’t give your answer just yet. Instead, read through this piece below first.

What happened?

On 19 Nov, an elderly man was caught on camera touching a woman’s leg inappropriately on a bus.


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Uncle, please watch where you place your hand — this woman is…

Uncle, please watch where you place your hand — this woman is clearly uncomfortable http://bit.ly/2zZkPTU

Posted by Stomp on Monday, 20 November 2017

Stomper Jenny, who filmed the video, boarded Bus 50 alongside the elderly man and the woman at the bus stop outside Jubilee Square at around 8pm.

She noticed the man making inappropriate gestures to the female passenger next to him, and decided to record it with her phone.

Image: Stomp

The woman looked uncomfortable as the man persisted in touching her leg throughout the bus ride, and it only stopped when she turned to look at him.

The elderly man subsequently moved his hand away and alighted the bus.

“She kept squeezing herself to the corner,” Jenny said. “Later, when she turned to look at the man, he quickly moved his hand away.”

“I told her that if she had shouted, someone or the bus captain would have done something.”

“I wish she would have said something as these kinds of incidents shouldn’t be happening.”

“Someone would have done something”

Before we continue, I just wanna clarify: I won’t pretend to be a Social Justice Warrior. I won’t pretend to be a vigilante of justice. 

I’m just as human as you guys.

Had I been there, I would’ve probably chosen Option 3. Minus the “continue touching the guy in front of you inappropriately” part. So well, I’m not really in the best position to speak out on this matter.


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But let’s face it: 90% of the population are going to think the same way as me. 

The other 10%? Out of that 10, would probably be filming the incident and sending the video to Stomp.

Which leaves only 1% to defend the victims.

So Jenny, earlier you said this: “I told her that if she had shouted, someone or the bus captain would have done something.”

To that I implore: why must she shout for someone to have done something?

You noticed it, right? That means other people probably noticed it too.


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So why didn’t anyone help

And then you said this too: “I wish she would have said something as these kinds of incidents shouldn’t be happening.”

Yeah, they shouldn’t be happening. She should say something.

But you know the thing here? Reality isn’t divided into should and should not.

It’s divided into a lot more sectors, and includes a lot more shitty stuff nobody asked for.


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Sure, she should have said something, but imagine this. You’re surrounded by people. Unfamiliar faces. The uncle next to you seems to be touching you. You squirm away. He follows.

You want to shout. But what if he wasn’t touching you on purpose? What if he had some disease, some affiliation that causes his hand to be that way? Are you really so attractive that someone would come after you? What if you voice out and you were wrong? What if you get shamed instead?

Of course, those thoughts are what would come up with should something like that happen to me, but c’mon; people are going to feel that way too, minus a few selective ones.

So you can probably get it: it’s not as simple as shouting when you want to.

Which leads back to the original question: is it really the victim’s responsibility alone?

Or… are the bystanders responsible too?

Honestly I’m not sure…

Are you?


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